Any help guys?

[pritchp]

Many of you may view this and read it in different ways but I just need to get it off my chest and talk to someone about it and see what people think as I don't seem able to sort myself out right now:

I work with this girl and we get on really well, we were on a trip together recently and we ended up in bed tonight having a nice cuddle there was no sex involved before you think anything like that. Just a night of cuddling.

Now she has been with her boyfriend for 10 years and are in the process of splitting up so she is becoming single.

Her and I get on really well and both want to see each other more. She is coming to mine in a few days time and I'm taking her out for dinner and then she is staying over and we will no doubt cuddle all night like last time which I love

I've been single for over a year now and I want to be in a relationship and I really really like this girl a lot I just don't want to get screwed over. I don't know what to think, I agree it seems very quick from her last relationship but if it works surely that's fine? I can't work out if she likes me the same way?

She sent me this text yesterday: I love spending time with you as your very easy going and I feel comfortable talking about whatever to you. You give lovely cuddles and love spending time with you. Your very nice to look at and dress nicely too... Although you know all this! X

Any ideas ?

 

[DrDrew]

I know of some people who have got out of one long relationship and into another straight away, with the new relationships still going strong after several years, so I don't think that's necessarily something to worry about.

The suggestion I would try and make would be to ensure she is over him (and that they're actually apart) before you start a relationship together - otherwise lots of things could get ugly.

All in all, good luck to you

 

[weebob]

hrrm.

Personally I would let the relationship finish and see were she is at once that's all blown over. Given her some space to sort things.

Allowing you to not be the rebound, how ever I married my rebound and have been with her for eight years.

The most important thing is if it works, roll with it. just dont become the "other guy" (this wont happen as the relationship is ending). I my experience, never attempt to work a lady out or second guess her. Chat to her about, lay your cards out and be open, hopefully she with be comfortable doing the same, if not, you know where you stand.

 

[Dee1983]

I would say take it in the slow lane, with a few dates and good chats and as you have already noted she can talk to you about things.

If it was me and I was starting out with a guy that had just split from a long relationship (which I have in the past), I would in a matter of speaking lay my cards out to find out if that was over and no chance of him running back to her when things get better or she missed him too much. I'm that type if person that says it as it is and to your face as don't agree with backstabbing and would wanna know where I stood.

I had the fear of being a rebound but the relationship was good (real good in fact) and the best person that I have had in my life, but in my case ended thanks to my old Job having more if my time, than me having it......but that's another story lol.

Just ride with it and see how it progresses...hopefully to a positive and lovely relationship.

 

[jra3d]

Gotta agree with Dee

 

[pritchp]

Date was last night

went really well
she stayed over and just left

 

[jra3d]

Awesome congrats

 

[weebob]

Date was last night

went really well
she stayed over and just left

good job fella!



(did you plough her?)

 

[jra3d]

Good on ya weebob asking what we all wanna know

 

[singlespeed]

Everyone was wondering

 

[Daveyb133]

remember, pics or it didnt happen

 

[maggi200]

And by pics we don't mean selfshots in the mirror...

Relationships don't have to work from the outside, what I mean is (and this is something I got from James) that it's between you and her. Not you, her, her ex etc. If it works, then it works.

TBH if it were a rebound, then it would likely be lots of sex straight away. Seems you've started it in the right way and there's more of a connection you've got right away. How the best relationships probably start. Although awesome sex always helps

 

[pritchp]

Sorry to disappoint but there was no sex, cuddling all night which if im honest i absolutely loved!! it makes me sound soppy but it was awesome!

and now i feel sad as shes gone home

 

[jra3d]

Thanks maggi shows my words helped someone, couldn't put it better myself

 

[jra3d]

And to be fair rob that's the best part cuddles when your starting out I'm speaking from experience there!

 

[maggi200]

haha i misread that for sloppy. Been talking to gareth too much I fear :lol:

Good for you Rob. At the end of the day, soppy is good. If she retruns the feelings then go for it. Just take your time I'd say and just let it all fall into place. What I did, and I've never been happier (or soppier )

And yes James, you helped me and carrie a lot!! And cos we took your advice it all fell into place and look where were at today

Cuddles are good, cuddled up and watched a couple of films the other night and i loved it. If you can't do that what's the point? Otherwise it's just a f*** buddy she's after. Good sign methinks

 

[jra3d]

haha i misread that for sloppy. Been talking to gareth too much I fear :lol:

You and me both everything seems dirty now

And yes James, you helped me and carrie a lot!! And cos we took your advice it all fell into place and look where were at today

An glad I helped!!

Oh an rob is it the mile high next as pointed to in your promotion thread