Convidence Issue

[nick7]

bit os a Pritch Thread so sorry in advance

Ok gonna start with this.

Basically im not the most confident of people which others i dont know.

i mean like i struggle to take to them and get all nerves and just want to leave.

The reason i bring this up is for the last 2 years all ive wanted to do is move to USA and Coach Youth football which i really injoy and i love football like loads of others.

im currently Coaching a youth team in my area which is helping me gain my Coaching Badges with i will need when i want to apply for USA. Been doing it since April and enjoy it alot but i still get Nerves before every seesion and i dont know why.


i will likely be appling for USA in the next week or so as i feel i need time away from the UK. the change would do me good. its a paid job and if i get accepted it will only be for Summer 2013. I apply then i will need to pass the interview process.


The main point of this thread is to maybe get some suggestions on how to gain some confidence in myself so im less nerves and i dont look like a idiot.

Other things to not is im not really sociable. like i dont drink or go to the Pub like many people do my age. i prefer sitting in the house or doing something with a purpose. like car cleaning, football, cinema, bowling etc

hope someone can help me and what ive said makes sense

 

[gordiniseb]

sound like a well sorted chap nick.. good on you mate,,sounds like you got few choices to make. but thats cool. Good luck to you mate.

 

[nick7]

Yeah its a tough one. never been away from home myself and plus its completly out the know comfort zone for me aswell.

 

[pritchp]

Hey Nick,

I'm going to try and help if i can,

Like you i never used to be that confident, also like you i like to spend time at home.

Anyway, the way i gained confidence was by throwing myself (not by choice though) into the deep in, my job really puts me in difficult situations infront of hundreds of people a day. After a while your confidence just builds and you get used to it.

Firstly, (this may sound extremely odd but bare with me...) try and do some positive writing... write about what you want to achieve (like you have done in this thread). Then write down what you feel could be the worst case scenario, in nearly all cases the worst care scenario won't even by close to the end result. Once you have written it down you can read it back and as silly as it sounds you will realise how silly it sounds because it would never happen... after that, just go out and slowly start talking to others with similar interests..meet up with them, you will soon realise everyone is the same and feels the same as you do. I promise you your confidence will build.

Try taking some of this, it used to really help me when it came to confidence in exams:


https://www.boots.com/en/Bach-Original-Flower-Remedies-Rock-Rose_843554/


you can always pm me if you fancy a chat and ill try and talk you through things and try to help if i can.

 

[nick7]

I think the main reason ive pushed the USA thing forward so much is because my job isnt going to well at the moment and i think i need something different maybe a break away for something new. Also the fact i can only apply for next summer for a few more weeks then the chance will be gone.

Both my parents are backing me to go do it because of my love of football and its all i want to do.

They say if i go and i dont like it i just come home and atleast ive had a bash at it. but if i never then i would seriously regret it. A couple of mates have took a year out in Australia and they have loved it there back in January which is maybe a extra think to go try it.

just the thought of knowing nobody in the USA. which puts serious doubts on my mind and being alone.

but suppose i get rented accomodation if all goes well that is and the mavelous chap who invented Skype so easy way to keep in touch with Family.