need help asap

[pritchp]

broke up with my girlfriend yesterday

she not happy about it

taken an overdose and is now in hospital


do i go?

If i go i think she will think that its me giving in and that we will get back together


but i cant have that...

help? views?

 

[TURBO]

:?

heavy mate, soz to hear that.
tough one

 

[singlespeed]

You obviously care a little bit, or you wouldn't be asking... So yes, as a friend if nothing else... sort out the break up later

 

[pritchp]

but.... her ex is there with her..but her parents arent.....

parents said they wont go because they will just argue if they do it... now if it was me and my family... my family would be there asap in the thought that i might die

 

[TURBO]

but.... her ex is there with her..but her parents arent.....

parents said they wont go because they will just argue if they do it... now if it was me and my family... my family would be there asap in the thought that i might die

wow id say the parents need to grow up sort it out then sort there daughter out a little!
if her x is there then maybe a call or txt to check she is ok but going there could get abit messy imo

 

[pritchp]

Well thats the thing... he called me telling me to go... but now she is wanting to talk to me on the phone etc...so surely shes not that bad if she can talk etc?

 

[singlespeed]

A bit more tricky with the x :? but still go. make up your mind when you arrive, wether to look in or not.

Down to you at the end, but personaly, I have regrets from something simillar, but I didn't know till too late


All the best to both of you

 

[HigtonA]

That is soo tough to decide...

In my mind i think you should go to the hospital, try and avoid the ex because its nothing to do with him, but make it clear that you care and are worried about her but make it clear you are not there to get back together.

I would do that but i have never been in that situation... all you can do really is to make sure she is okay.

 

[TURBO]

il prob get shot down for this but if u have ended it coz u dont wana b with her then thats it game over!

id steer clear of going to see her or even speaking to her and she should get the message!

but if still have feeling for her etc then maybe u should b going up there with some grapes :mrgreen:

 

[Matt]

I think a part of comes down to the reason for the break up really (was it you, her, something she did, something you did, something that's not working, etc).

For the record I'm not asking those questions but you've got to think about them and why she did what she did to work out whether you need to be involved or not.

 

[Daveyb133]

Rob, sorry to hear that mate, u sounded happy but i guess there are other things going on

The overdose is a cry out for attention and desperation to keep u in her life, sorry if that offends anyone but personal experience has proved that.

I think everyone would be feeling like u r mate, i would be there in a shot but that would be guilt and not feelings and just seeing she is ok.

Shes an X and they are X's for a reason, but why her X is there i have no idea, he must obviously still have feelings and u may be better out of it.

As for her parents, thats a joke, they should be there for there daughter. The only thing i can think of is because they know she is doing it for attention because I remember u saying she is very demanding

 

[TURBO]

Rob, sorry to hear that mate, u sounded happy but i guess there are other things going on

The overdose is a cry out for attention and desperation to keep u in her life, sorry if that offends anyone but personal experience has proved that.

I think everyone would be feeling like u r mate, i would be there in a shot but that would be guilt and not feelings and just seeing she is ok.

Shes an X and they are X's for a reason, but why her X is there i have no idea, he must obviously still have feelings and u may be better out of it.

As for her parents, thats a joke, they should be there for there daughter. The only thing i can think of is because they know she is doing it for attention because I remember u saying she is very demanding

+1

 

[TURBO]

if this is still the girl u were posting about a while back then u could always txt the other girl (hot blonde) and cheer urself up!!!!!!! :mrgreen:

too soon?? :roll:

 

[pritchp]

Just got back... i went in the end

she did a royal job of it thats for sure... they have kept her in but wouldn't let me stay any longer as im not family

time for sleep now

cant believe all this has happened.

 

[weebob]

Horrid situation mate. Hope it all turns out

 

[TripNip]

Sad to hear it mate, All you can do is be supportive and do what a friend would do... Just try your best to do no more... Even though it's difficult when someone's in that sort of situation.

 

[Mr_Ben]

Rob, sorry to hear that mate, u sounded happy but i guess there are other things going on

The overdose is a cry out for attention and desperation to keep u in her life, sorry if that offends anyone but personal experience has proved that.

I think everyone would be feeling like u r mate, i would be there in a shot but that would be guilt and not feelings and just seeing she is ok.

Shes an X and they are X's for a reason, but why her X is there i have no idea, he must obviously still have feelings and u may be better out of it.

As for her parents, thats a joke, they should be there for there daughter. The only thing i can think of is because they know she is doing it for attention because I remember u saying she is very demanding

+1

+2

Can't really add more than that.

 

[Alex_225]

Sorry to hear the situation mate but don't feel bad as what she's done was her choice.

Personally I think, if you're 100% certain you don't want to be with her then don't go. To her it'll be a glimmer of hope and cause more trouble in the long run. By not going it doesn't mean you don't care but for the sake of the situation it wouldn't help.

Also, I know if it were me I'd be glad you did what you did. It may sound harsh but if she's prepared to do this when you break up she's clearly either very immature or a bit mental. I'd avoid.

 

[DrDrew]

Man, tough situation. Hope it all works out ok. Can't really add anymore, will just say I agree with Davey

 

[Bones]

Rob, sorry to hear that mate, u sounded happy but i guess there are other things going on

The overdose is a cry out for attention and desperation to keep u in her life, sorry if that offends anyone but personal experience has proved that.

I think everyone would be feeling like u r mate, i would be there in a shot but that would be guilt and not feelings and just seeing she is ok.

Shes an X and they are X's for a reason, but why her X is there i have no idea, he must obviously still have feelings and u may be better out of it.

As for her parents, thats a joke, they should be there for there daughter. The only thing i can think of is because they know she is doing it for attention because I remember u saying she is very demanding

+1

+2

Can't really add more than that.

+3!

Cant understand why her X is there tbh